Taking myself out of the game


I’m pulling the plug.

I’m walking away.

I’m talking myself out of the game.

What am I talking about?

My brand. My name. My image. My ministry.

There are countless people that I get emails from and see advertisements for marketing, branding and building a coaching business. It is so tempting to click their ad, sign up for their webinar or register for their course.

“I need to put myself out there” I think. “I need to learn to market myself better and build my blog and get more clients.”

Everything is ME ME ME!

I’m taking myself out of the game because it is not about ME.

It is HIM. It is only because of Him I have a heart to encourage others and comfort them in times of need.

His brand. His name. His image. His ministry.

In order to become first I need to become last. Funny thing is I wrote a similar post to this earlier this year, and here I am still in the same boat.

Pride and desire for self-recognition is a nasty monster. It is so easy to get caught up in promoting yourself and not God, especially as a life coach. I want to let people know what I can help them through when they are working with me and I can help them, the desire to make myself look good and is always there.

I began a pursuit of marketing for clients, even offering pro-bono coaching, but in vain because I am still pushing ME and not HIM.

Recently I made a decision to leave my teaching role and pursue my coaching ministry more full time. It has became clear to me that I am not in the business of  marking my ministry. I am in the business of sharing the Christ’s love with as many people as I can.

This means that if opportunities come up where I am to partner with other people or ministries to help encourage other believers to deepen their walk with Christ, I’m going to take it!

So as I cleared up my schedule by stepping away from teaching, I assumed that God would answer by providing clients. Instead He answered by providing opportunities.

  • leading studies for women
  • speaking
  • blogging (my own blog and being a contributing writer)
  • partnering with an online evangelism program to disciple new believers

Butterfly beginnings is not over, it is just beginning. The transformation that occurs from knowing and accepting the word of God is something that happens outside of my coaching relationships. It is in my interaction with others that my faith is shared and my gifts are used. It just won’t have MY brand on it.

It won’t matter HOW you came to develop a closer a relationship to the Father, just that you did. You started walking in-line with God’s plan for your life, and that is a beautiful thing! All of the GLORY will go to Him!

2017 will be a year of uncertainty, but if I walk by faith and not by sight, I’ll be alright! (Ohh I sense a new motto perhaps?!)

*I still am available for spiritual growth coaching if that is something you feel God is leading you to. God has graciously sent people to me that needed my gift and if/when He does it again I won’t turn them away. (I just meant I am done in terms of my relentless pursuit to market my own business)

However, I don’t think my business was in vain, butterfly beginnings is who I am, and who I will always be, transformed in the image of God. Maybe one day down the road God will tell me to pick up the “business” again, or maybe not. One thing is for certain, I am going to get BUSY marketing HIS message and HIS brand!

Blessings friends! I would love to hear from you below, what is God showing you about your purpose and His plan?



10 thoughts on “Taking myself out of the game”

  1. Hi Stephanie, I know how you feel. I’ve been feeling the same. It is not easy to feel ‘relevant’ in the midst of all the noise. We live in a time when it is increasingly ‘all out ME’. You have to push your image, your looks, your lifestyle, even your family, in order to be seen. God has a much better way, we have to believe that. I’ll be praying for you!


    1. Thanks for the encouragement! I agree. It is when we stop trying to Get ahead of God and make things happen for our self that things actually start to happen. I really believe that I am called to be an influence exactly where I am, and to enjoy this time that He has for me now. Blessings sweet friend, I will be praying for you also!


  2. Hi Stephanie, I’m your neighbor over at #TeaAndWord today, and I am so glad that I stopped by. I really appreciate your heart of honest giving. This thought resonates so much with me, “It is so easy to get caught up in promoting yourself and not God,” as it seems like everywhere I turn, I hear more and more of that ME, ME, ME image. Thank you for the encouragement to keep pursuing God and HIS Glory, through the everyday leading of His purpose! Blessings to you as you continue to share what He has put on your heart!


  3. Love your obedience and boldness, Stephanie. I was signing up for it all a few months back and lost joy in what I actually knew 100% I was called to in this season! It is so easy to get sidetracked I guess, as you said, with things that seem so important and like our future hinges on them..but HE is the one Who holds us. Thanks for sharing your heart, I can’t wait to see what 2017 holds. I am currently fishing through my FB notifications trying to get caught back up since the whole crazy last week. (I guess it’s still crazy but we are healing up and actually have a car this week!) I will be in touch sweet, friend!!


  4. Stephanie,

    This post really spoke to me. I think it’s really difficult to be in the business of ministry, if that makes sense. We need to promote ourselves to some degree, but in promoting ourselves we have to be careful to promote Jesus. I’m nowhere close to wrapping my head around it.

    You asked what God is showing me. He’s called me away from my previous career (also in education, coincidentally) and is steering me towards writing. It’s so easy to become obsessed with pageviews and followers. I had to purpose in my heart that if I forever had 0 followers, I would keep on writing until He told me to stop.

    It can’t be about me.

    Your potential motto is a good one! Right now, I’m determined to just take the next step He’s shown me, until the next one appears. It sounds like that’s what you’re doing, too! Have faith and you will be alright!


    1. Thank you friend! I am learning that more and more, the less I focus on ME the more fulfilled I am! I struggled with this so much at first, even in terms of blog comments and posts. I found myself encouraging just so I could be encouraged, waiting for them to comment or like it back because I had liked their post. Thankfully, God continues to humble me as I learn more and more the numbers don’t matter, it is what is in the heart!


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