When we play pretend as grown ups


Do you ever feel like a fake or a phony? Like you are “just pretending”?

When I was a little girl me and my friend would play dress up. We would go into her mother’s closet and pick out shiny or sparkly high heeled shoes and pair them with fancy dresses or a sharp blazer or jacket.

I would stand in front of the mirror and pretend I was some fancy grown up lady, going to a fancy dinner with a fancy husband.

In adulthood, we move from “dressing up” to “fake it till you make it.’ We never want them to see us sweat. We want to be seen as confident and self-assured, but sometimes we feel less than adequate.

Since I’ve started this journey of coaching and writing and even my facebook live videos,  I’ve had amazing opportunities to do the unthinkable, and reach out to so many people and connect with people that I never in a million years I thought I would be able to do. Even with all of the great people I am meeting and the support they are giving me, I still struggle with doubt and uncertainty. This insecurity is especially present right now since I am going to  be launching my Emotional Freedom Growth group in a few weeks. The enemy is working overtime to take away my joy and replace it with discouragement.

So how do I stop looking at myself as if I don’t belong and I don’t know what I am doing?

There are a few scriptures that come to mind that really put into perspective the gifts we are given and the beauty of our vulnerable expression from them.

Don’t let anyone look down on you because you are young, but set an example for the believers in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith and in purity. 1: Timothy 4:18 (NIV)

And those he predestined, he also called; those he called, he also justified; those he justified, he also glorified. Romans 8:30

What a reminder that He called us out to this. This is our destiny, this is His will. The more opposition we experience confirms the power that His plan will display not only in our lives, but the lives of others around us.

Get the word out. Teach all these things. And don’t let anyone put you down because you’re young. Teach believers with your life: by word, by demeanor, by love, by faith, by integrity. Stay at your post reading Scripture, giving counsel, teaching. And that special gift of ministry you were given when the leaders of the church laid hands on you and prayed—keep that dusted off and in use. Cultivate these things. Immerse yourself in them. The people will all see you mature right before their eyes! Keep a firm grasp on both your character and your teaching. Don’t be diverted. Just keep at it. Both you and those who hear you will experience salvation. 1 Timothy 4:11-16 (The Message)

So the enemy is right, I can’t do it by myself and I have no idea what I’m doing… BUT in the spirit I can do all things and through the power of the Holy Spirit I will persevere.

I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. Philippians 4:13

My prayer is that you become encouraged after reading this, and remember the truth of what it means to live in the spirit.


We can’t live in fear and we can’t stay trapped in feeling not good enough or not ready. So I boldly declare that God has given me power, love and self discipline and in His name for Him and through Him I declare that women who join the Emotional Freedom Growth group will be healed and walk lighter under his wings in His grace towards emotional freedom. Together in community we will grow stronger and use the power, love and self-discipline He has given us to lift ourselves and each other up so we can walk on the path He has laid out for us!

Blessings sweet friends!

9 thoughts on “When we play pretend as grown ups”

  1. It has been so great to be on this journey with you! I love the encouragement you bring every week. Thank you for that. And for linking up with #JesusandCoffee this week.

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  2. Wow I absolutely love this. “When we play pretend as grown ups” really had me. It’s so true though that any secure we try to obtain apart from God is a false security and a vain pursuit. It’s abiding in Him and His calling over us that empowers us to authentically live out our purpose. Thanks so much for sharing!


  3. Love this encouragement. In ministry I have found whenever God is about to do the biggest things, the enemies lies really ramp up and He attacks with feelings of inadequacy , fear, I can’t ect. I so related to this post and will be praying for you . I love this post!


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